SO, 🐾 WHAT DOES PROGRESS LOOK LIKE IN A FEARFUL CAT?
16 September 2026
I’ve been thinking a lot about Biscuit and what “progress” actually means when you’re working with a frightened or unsocialised cat.
After four months with him, I contacted an experienced cat rescue for a second opinion. I wanted to make sure that what I was seeing as progress really was progress and that I wasn’t simply being overly optimistic because I’m so invested in him.
Their response was reassuring.
They considered Biscuit’s progress encouraging, particularly because he:
• no longer lunges or attacks
• voluntarily approaches me
• will take treats from my hand
• is learning that interaction with me can be positive
• communicates clearly when he’s had enough.
That last part is important.
Biscuit still has very definite boundaries. If he becomes tense, his breathing changes, he hisses or growls, that’s his way of saying “I’ve had enough.”
Recently he firmly took hold of my finger. He didn’t attack or break the skin, but it was a very clear message that his tolerance had been reached.
The advice was to respect those signals rather than trying to push through them.
And that has made me think about how we measure success with cats like Biscuit.
❤️ Not every cat has to become a lap cat.
Some fearful cats eventually become incredibly affectionate and love being handled.
Others may accept stroking but never want to be picked up.
Some may show affection by sitting nearby, following their person around, sleeping close by, or simply choosing to lean against their human’s legs.
Those things can all be enormous achievements for a cat who once found humans frightening.
I was also given a real-life example of a cat who had lived wild before being rescued. After around three years, her human could pick her up briefly and stroke her on her terms. Her favourite way of showing affection, however, was simply leaning against her person’s legs.
Three years.
That really put Biscuit’s four months into perspective. It also reminded me that cats shouldn’t necessarily be measured against each other.
Even cats who come from almost identical circumstances can have completely different personalities, histories, genetics and thresholds.
BB doesn’t have to become Biscuit. Tabitha doesn’t have to become Biscuit. And Biscuit doesn’t have to become either of them.
His journey is his own.
For some cats, successful socialisation means becoming a very affectionate companion.
For another, it may simply mean:
“I feel safe here. I choose to come near you. I trust you enough to share my world with you.”
And if that takes months — or even years — it doesn’t necessarily mean the socialisation has failed.
Sometimes slow progress is still progress. So for now, I’m not making “being able to touch Biscuit” the goal.
The goal is much simpler:
To give him the time and safety to decide for himself how much of a relationship with humans he wants. And if one day he decides he wants more, we’ll be here. 🐾❤️


















